{"id":81,"date":"2010-05-21T12:36:23","date_gmt":"2010-05-21T18:36:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.muckleroy.com\/?p=81"},"modified":"2010-05-21T12:36:23","modified_gmt":"2010-05-21T18:36:23","slug":"how-men-view-women-in-the-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/muckleroy.com\/?p=81","title":{"rendered":"How Men View Women in the Media"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"I recently read an entertaining article written by Alison Rosen<\/a> on the Marie Claire website<\/a>.\u00a0 You can read the article here<\/a>.\u00a0 Reading this article I thought of several observations I have made, or my wife has pointed out to me.\u00a0 Let me see if I can articulate them sufficiently here.<\/p>\n

A few years ago, perhaps more than I really care to consider, a beautiful lady in the media married a common looking but talented man.\u00a0 The lady was Julia Roberts, and the man was Lyle Lovett.\u00a0 Personally I was shocked at this.\u00a0 I know I shouldn’t be as it is everyone’s right to find the person they want to be with and people shouldn’t judge, but I think we all do.\u00a0 I was discussing this “beauty” disparity and my wife asked me a simple question.\u00a0 One I had never really thought of before, or at least not deeply.<\/p>\n

She asked “Why do you care?”\u00a0 I thought about it for a few nanoseconds and answered.\u00a0 I told her that I guess that I wanted to understand how Julia would do such a thing, then I thought wait a minute.\u00a0 If Julia Roberts could fall for a man like Lyle Lovett all men had a chance with Julia!\u00a0 We both laughed, but looking at myself and how beautiful my wife is I already knew first hand that woman are more complex (Thank God!) than men.<\/p>\n

Alison Rosen mentions in her article that people tell her to wear a skirt, or that she dresses like a whore, wear more makeup, wear less makeup.\u00a0 I guess this is one of the dangers of being in the public eye.\u00a0 I think what Alison Rosen is experiencing here is exactly what I was doing subconsciously with Julia Roberts.\u00a0 I had it in my mind, thanks to her movies putting me there, that she was someone I knew.\u00a0 Now logically I know this isn’t true, she’s an actress in a make believe world, but movies must get you to buy into the plot.\u00a0 To put yourself into the story.\u00a0 For example I did not enjoy, and didn’t watch the entire\u00a0movie of Julia Roberts film “A Scanky Hooker Finds Love” wait, that’s my title, “Pretty Woman” is the title you know it by.<\/p>\n

I had a hard time buying into that plot line.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 I can’t see myself with some skanky hooker.\u00a0 How in God’s green Earth could anyone?\u00a0 There in lies my point.\u00a0 Some people like the idea of being with “whorish” woman others don’t.\u00a0 Some are in between, or changes with their mood.\u00a0 If you are celebrity with a public e-mail address, or worse a Twitter\/Facebook account you can get slapped in the face near instantly with the two extremes.\u00a0 I love you! or I hate you!\u00a0 Many people, including myself, think it is our right to speak our mind to a celebrity simply because we can.\u00a0 Some people are down right rude to celebrities.\u00a0 In fact I believe some people are rude\u00a0just so they can get a rise out of a celebrity.\u00a0 If you follow celebrites on Twitter you see very quickly they are people with feelings too.\u00a0 The media has already shown us that it is fine to say what ever you want about a celebrity (true or untrue) and the relative anonymity of the Internet allows people that can barely look at someone in the face to drone on about lack writing skills, intelligence, or even personal hygiene!<\/p>\n

So as we all know sex sells in the media.\u00a0 It sells for women, it sells for men.\u00a0 Men are more visually stimulated than women so shapely figures, skirts, long hair, bright colors are usually universally accepted by men.\u00a0 What gets a little more complex is how men like or dislike women in the media based on their perceived personalities.\u00a0 I believe for most celebrities their media personality is skewed at best, and out right masks covering who they really are.<\/p>\n

So the same dynamic that we saw and learned first hand in Junior High, at least for me, is still in play today.\u00a0 Very few people are who they seem to be, they are the people that their peers have taught them to be.\u00a0 In my younger, friendless days, I identified this constant popularity contest and rebelled against it.\u00a0 People can accept me for who I am and if they didn’t want to, the hell with them!\u00a0 That’s all fine and good until people that love and care about you know a wonderful exciting intelligent person but the rest of the world see’s an a$$hole.\u00a0\u00a0Then the world\u00a0can’t understand why that lovely wonderful and socially accepted woman could be with you.\u00a0 Or how those wonderful children could have turned out so well exposed to you.<\/p>\n

So it comes full circle.\u00a0 What we expect of the people that entertain us in the media, society expects from us.\u00a0 Thank God we “non-media types” just have to please a few\u00a0people and not thousands, hundred of thousands, or even millions!\u00a0 So the next time you look at a woman, or a man, in the media and you wonder how they could dress, or act in a certain way, give them a break and keep it to yourself.\u00a0 Or maybe you can do what I do (most of the time) and just share it with your spouse and have a good laugh.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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